Saturday, September 04, 2010

Brallets and Marriage

Well there are several things on my mind these days......not sure what to talk about. Been thinking of designing something new....a "Brallet." If you know me well.....you know that I can carry a lot of stuff in my bra. I find it is a great place to store my cell phone, bank card, money, even at times a lipstick or two. I have the ability to do this.....and was thinking, I should make little pockets or compartments in the bra.....like a wallet.....so, I could have things organized. Brallet. Not a bad idea.

Okay, also been thinking about marriage. In my single state, it seems that lately I have been inundated with talk of marriage, or rather, talking to married women about their marriages, in particular. I have come to some conclusions.....and even learned about some of the harsh realities of this union. There are times, when I do not understand the frustrations of this bond.....as I take most of my learning at this point and time....from the Bible.....studying what God has to say. I do have some opinions about these things....but generally tend to keep them to myself.....as even though my points are valid and biblical, they may not be well received.....apparently you do have to 'buy the cow', before you can 'evaluate the milk'.
 So a week or so ago, I was speaking to a long time friend, who I love and respect dearly......and she has been struggling in her marriage for several years. She is a God-fearing woman, who hit the nail on the head, when talking about God's opinion of marriage. She said, "I've been looking for a loop hole to this whole marriage is forever thing, in the Bible, and I just don't get it. I mean, you are born, raised to leave your parents.....you have children and rear them to leave your care........even in friendships, if you grow apart...then your friendship slowly dissolves or becomes distant. Marriage is the ONLY relationship, that you are required to commit to for a lifetime." Now we both understand that biblically, there are certain allowances for divorce.....but for the most part....she is correct.
And so, my dear friend, I have pondered this, since our conversation, and was very fortunate when these words slipped into my heart and into my head.
You are to love your spouse as Christ loved the Church....and gave Himself for us. He sacrificed His life for us, His bride. You are not to leave your spouse; as an example of how....no matter what......Christ will never leave us either. It is just another constant reminder, of how God will always be there, never give up on us.....and love us unconditionally........another reminder, of how....even in our human failures......we are not alone. There is no other human covenant so sacred.
That's what I have come up with...written on my heart......much past my bedtime......and so with that, I pray a blessing on your marriage.....may God be there.....loving you both.

6 comments:

  1. God's truth spoken my friend...that's exactly the reason God's heart and the heart of those involved breaks, shatters, when the covenant is broken...

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  2. Thank you for this post may we all remember whether having trouble in marriage or other situation tha HIS grace is enough, a sentiment I should have tattooed as a reminder:)

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  3. You are right, my friend. If only more of us had a better understanding of what that covenant means before we march our 20-year-old selves to the alter. If only we made better efforts to ensure that our (almost) adult children better understand that covenant before we focus all our energy on their white dress/black tux event. The most difficult part of keeping the covenant arises from not really understanding what you signed up for in the first place.
    I am thankful for God's grace - and his forgiveness - but lets not forget that He gave us each other. I am thankful for the wise women, mature in their faith, that God has placed in my life. God's grace is not immaterial. You are God's grace in someone's life, it is your responsibility to speak His truth into someone's life. Today, Robyn, you are God's grace in my life.

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  4. "you know that I can carry a lot of stuff in my bra."

    I know you've a great figure, Robyn, but I'm not sure I'd have put it quite like that!


    As for your marriage metaphor, I'd say you're most of the way there, but the wife should love her husband as the church loves (should love, anyway) Christ. Unless you want to be determinedly liberal about it, and maybe even then, it's the husband's job to love and sacrifice himself for his wife. The wife... well, there's a lot that could be said, but mostly it's the tricky bit of respecting their husbands, even when he does the stuff that's more worthy of a good slapping than respect.

    This may not be the place to talk about that stuff.

    Anon - you have my sympathy and prayers for your struggles.

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  5. "you know that I can carry a lot of stuff in my bra."

    I know you've a great figure, Robyn, but I'm not sure I'd have put it quite like that!


    As for your marriage metaphor, I'd say you're most of the way there, but the wife should love her husband as the church loves (should love, anyway) Christ. Unless you want to be determinedly liberal about it, and maybe even then, it's the husband's job to love and sacrifice himself for his wife. The wife... well, there's a lot that could be said, but mostly it's the tricky bit of respecting their husbands, even when he does the stuff that's more worthy of a good slapping than respect.

    This may not be the place to talk about that stuff.

    Anon - you have my sympathy and prayers for your struggles.

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  6. I would agree with you Toni....not about the bra...but about how the wife is to love her husband...like the Church loves Christ.......when I read that passage, I automatically think that we need to love each other as Christ loves the Church,factoring in Phil 2...but I think I get where you are going.....we will just have to see...if i ever marry.

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